Tips to Solve 5 Common Relationship Problems Without Breaking Up

Occasional bumps happen on the path to love. Every couple has their way of overcoming them. Some try to ignore and bury the topic. Others might get upset, yell, or fight all the time. Whether the relationship will last or not depends on how you try to work things out.

Keep reading to find out the five most common types of complications couples face and how to rekindle your love life.

1. Struggling to Communicate

Communication skills are crucial to excelling in life. Partners might fail to establish intimacy unless they can express themselves and listen to one another. Poor communication can lead to a lot of avoidable fights. So, improving communication skills may allow you and your partner to form and maintain a loving, respectful romantic bond. Here is a step-by-step process for effective communication to resolve fights:

• Define your issue and solution: You are raging, but what is the exact reason? To illustrate, are you angry with your partner because they went out to a party with their friends? Or, are you furious because you don’t get much time together on weekdays because of your jobs, and your partner makes plans with their friends instead of spending time with them on weekends? Now you must understand what you want from your partner is to spend more time as a couple. Take time to clearly define what’s bothering you the most. Then find an appropriate solution.
• Schedule a time to talk about the issue: Ideally, when you both are free with no commitments and relaxed. For example, do not discuss your problems when you have to go to work in 10 minutes. Talk at night when you are both at home, relaxed, and without disturbances.
• Listen to each other: Give them your full attention, or they may get more angry and frustrated. You can nod while they are talking or verbally confirm that you are listening by saying words like right, okay, or I understand. This way, they will feel heard.
• Do not argue: It is not a debate, so try not to prove who is right or wrong. Communication occurs when two people share and examine their feelings and thoughts to understand what is happening. You can sort things out only after understanding each other’s points of view.
• Come up with a solution: At this point, you may want to go over what you’ve learned about each other and your relationship. You can identify the personal reasons and reactions that cause conflicts. From now on, you will now know what to avoid in the future to dodge similar issues.

2. Difficulties with Money

Let’s be honest, surviving alone is expensive. Doing it together with your partner could be a big deal. Preparing for living together, marriage, or other living arrangements such as renting a place or buying a house might burn a hole in your pockets.

Even if you are in a live-in situation, couples should discuss their budgets and how much they can spend on groceries, bills, maintenance, etc. If you have money woes, you and your partner should have a serious discussion about finances.

Here are some tips to resolve them:

• Be honest and let them know if you are in any financial trouble, such as debts or getting fired. Hiding may worsen your financial condition as well as your love life.
• If things go south, you two should discuss reassessing your expenditure and lifestyle. Continuing the same lifestyle as before the loss of income could be suicidal.
• Avoid blaming at all costs. Recognize that one partner may be a saver and the other a spender. Realize that both have advantages and agree to learn from each other’s habits.

How to avoid fiance-related fights in the future:

• Assign yourself and your better half certain payments that they have to take care of. For example, you can handle groceries and maintenance while your partner will get the phone and electricity bills.
  
• Set up a joint savings account.
• Provide independence to each person by allocating money to spend at their discretion.
• Set up future goals such as buying a house, yearly vacation, college funds for kids, taking care of your parents as they age, etc.

3. Conflicts About Responsibilities

Whether you both work or not, someone needs to clean the house, fill up the food pantry, and do the laundry. In these busy times, it’s not uncommon for people to work two jobs or have a side hustle going on. Therefore, both partners should divide chores equally, thus leaving no chances for resentment.

Both partners should know and agree on their respective tasks. Also, you can make a chore chart with a deadline. Consequently, nobody forgets about their tasks.

If you hate doing the dishes, your partner can do them while you take care of the laundry. Or, if your partner is good at finances, they can take care of paying bills and filing taxes. This way, no one would willingly skip out on their responsibilities.

If you both hate doing chores, see if you can afford to hire house help.

4. Experiencing Distrust When You Are Apart

Trust is an essential component of any relationship, and it could be impossible to build a strong, long-lasting one without trust. Those who have been betrayed, such as through unfaithfulness, may have trust issues. Trust issues from past dating experiences can interfere with upcoming endeavors.

Here are some ways to trust each other again:

• Discuss: If your partner has done something that causes you to distrust them, discuss it with them.
• Talk about your unresolved trust issue: You don’t have to go into great detail about what occurred to you in the past. Sharing what broke your trust can help others better understand you. Trust issues that result from past trauma or experience should be dealt with. Otherwise, they can ruin your relations with others.
• Build trust slowly: Taking your time with it can sometimes be beneficial. You should not forgive someone and allow them back into your life if they don’t deserve it. See if they genuinely feel sorry for betraying your trust and that they aren’t repeating those mistakes.
• Don’t break promises: If you cannot keep a promise, don’t make one. How can someone trust you if you cannot fulfill your promises? If you have a date night tomorrow at six, show up on time. If you said you would call in an hour, do it.
• No lies: Lying when building trust with a person can be detrimental. If caught, those wounds will bleed badly.

5. Problems in the Bedroom

This issue is difficult to discuss, and couples might try to avoid it, but “satisfying sex” is the last thing they should give up on. Sexual intimacy can play a crucial role in every love life. It may be the only thing that separates friends from a partner. It can bring people close together, releasing dopamine and oxytocin, which makes you feel happy and keeps the chemistry burning. Here are some tips to smoothen things out in the bedroom:

• If one of the partners has a medical condition preventing them from being intimate, consult your healthcare provider.
• Sometimes couples just hit a phase where they start to act as friends. The key to overcoming this situation is to plan the sex. Decide on a time when you are both full of energy and won’t be disturbed, like in the morning before going to work. Or, if you have children, ask your friends or family to take them every other Friday night for sleepovers.
• Make it more fun by diving into your fantasies. Share your wildest dreams that you want to try out and create scenarios that turn you both on.
• If you are unable to settle your sex-related troubles on your own, consulting a certified sex therapist may assist you in addressing and resolving your concerns.

Why Do Relationship Problems Happen?

A lack of healthy communication – communication that is open, direct, courteous, brutally honest, and personal — can ruin many romantic companionships.

Couples may have trouble when they fear honesty and transparency, mainly because they fear upsetting their partner and jeopardizing what they have with each other. They might not express their desires or what bothers them. And if they do, they might do it critically or accusingly.

Generally, other complications result from an imbalance of power, where one partner attempts to dominate the other through aggression, control, or emotional or verbal abuse.

Am I Causing Problems in My Relationship?

It is hard to determine who is causing an issue. It’s possible that you two aren’t just compatible. If you see a pattern of multiple failed relationships or frequent fights, that can signify that you or your partner is the toxic element.

Such trouble-causing negative patterns can emerge from childhood issues such as disrespectful communication, a lack of nurturing or free emotional expression, a dominating parent, mental illness, etc. A variety of dysfunctional parenting approaches instill guilt and impair a child’s self-esteem, which can last throughout adulthood.

Seek Relationship Counselling from a Trusted Provider

Being in love is not easy. It requires the courage to be vulnerable and ready to get hurt. At the end of the day, having someone to talk to, love, and share your life with is worth all the troubles.

However, if you are having issues with your partner, do not disregard these issues or quarrel about them. Because this will widen the gap between you and your partner. Seek help from a trusted provider with DocVita, and communicate these issues to a licensed and compassionate provider. All you have to do is visit our book a therapist page and schedule your first session right away.